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If you don’t think so, consider: It is Super Bowl CXIV.

You reside in Seattle and have lived and died by your team’s successes and failures.

These range from the inconsequential (watching Frank Capra’s ) to the momentous (writing a book together).Let us now return to the contrast between interests and expectations. Expectations are related to things I want from someone else. But sometimes we do not have control, and other times one’s need for control may be excessive or neurotic. High expectation is often associated with important issues.While I may have a good deal of control over whether I partake of my interests, I typically have only limited control over whether others fulfill my expectations. In the case of Paul, he wants Monica to remain fit, trim and attractive. If it is important to Paul that he and his wife remain fit and attractive, high expectations in this area are almost certain.What follows is a list of typical expectations that might be held by some: “I expect that my husband will discuss and resolve disagreements in a systematic and logical manner.” “I expect my wife will be excited about making love with me every night.” “I expect a good deal of affection and a great deal of physical contact in our marriage.” “I expect that my wife will nurture and comfort me when I am ill.” “I expect that my husband will climb the corporate ladder and make ever increasing amounts of money.” “I expect that we will have daily devotions and prayer in our home.” “I expect that my wife will remain slim and shapely throughout our marriage.” “I expect that my husband will take pleasure in sharing the events of the day when he gets home.” “I expect to have dinner waiting for me when I get home at .” “I expect that my husband will do his fair share of household maintenance.” “I expect to entertain a large army of family members at major holidays.” “I expect to have an open home in which people feel free to drop by at any time.” “I expect a ,000 wedding with a three-carat diamond ring—I deserve the best.” The list of potential expectations is endless, and even while reading the brief inventory listed above, you may find yourself feeling comfortable with some whereas others may seem worse than a nightmare. Let’s explore two of them, starting with the first: “I expect that my husband will resolve disagreements in a systematic and logical way.” If the husband is skilled in that style of resolving conflict (or is willing to learn and able to do so) all is well.But if the husband has never thought logically about conflict resolution and tends to follow the pattern of his family of origin (violent verbal outbursts with wild yelling, arm waving, and finger pointing) the marriage is in for some major trauma. “I expect my wife will be excited about making love with me every night.” There are women who would enjoy that, but not the majority. Perhaps he has watched many romantic or soft-porn films in which the female star is well paid to be excited about lovemaking.

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